Archive for May 2011

Breaking up or seeing a relationship gone sour is never a pleasant happening; it never will. And doing such takes in many different forms. Years ago before technology was at its peak, breaking up is made by sending letters apart from saying it straight to the face.

Through the years, several innovations were introduced to the eager public. Among these include cellular phones, answering machines, telephones, and many more. With the mention of mobile phones, sending messages has never been easy and accessible.

It’s No Joke

The so-called break-up messages through texts have incredibly grown famous and widespread. They just vary in some aspect such that there are too serious, while some are quite humorous. But regardless of how each is created, the concept is the same: break up texts are among the craze nowadays.

As part of a relationship, regardless of being the beginning or the end, break-ups ought to be done in private and in the most sincere manner no matter what the cost. But in spite of this, breaking up through texts cannot be utterly avoided and be ignored.

Adding to the injury is the fact that this kind of text message can just be easily forwarded, be easily copied or read by anybody or may be possibly done without the slightest touch of sincerity. Save for others maybe. But for starters, if you have to break up with someone, why not do it in person? Well, the reasons are obvious. And mind you, they are quite a lot to be mentioned one by one.

Due to its rising popularity, break up texts can be read and quoted easily from varied sources. Among these is the Internet. On the web, there are several sites solely designed for this purpose. From which, you can read what seems to be regarded as the best break up text messages known to people. Some of which are those that use homosexuality as the reason for breaking up, together with no time and being too busy. The underlying notion is: the person sending these kinds of message is clearly not interested to pursue the relationship anymore.

What do you think of the above mentioned break up texts? Do they sound cool too you? Or are these break up text messages really that fancy? One thing certain though, breaking up through a text message is not the best break up manner ever. It never will.

On the other hand, there is no question as to how magnificent today’s innovative technology is as it offers boundless opportunities for everyone to interact across the planet. But making use of such to run away from a relationship is another story. Yet, break-up texts continue to be practiced.

Break up texts are the most convenient way out. The main reason for adhering to this is to save oneself from the dreaded confrontation. Many people do not like confrontation. This is one of those that individuals despise of. Therefore, why not use cellular phones to do what must be done? This explains the rampant flows of break up text messages.

The Short End of the Stick

If by some unfortunate fate, you are among those who received a text break up, the key to deal with the matter is to agree. DO not confront the person if you can hold it. As you get the message, which presumably contains the reason for breaking up with you as well, re-read it again.

After which, be ready with your reply. Of course, it has something to do with agreeing with the break-up. You may reply with something such as: “Hi got your message. And yes, I agree with it. It is indeed the time to call it quits or put all this to an end.” This is just an example, an idea but nonetheless, it still depends on you and the break-up message or the reason for it.

This implied reaction serves a good intention. It is nothing less but to catch your partner completely off guard. More often than not, anybody who receives a break up text message gets angry, hurt or unreasonable. Thus, you should not act any of these. Rather, appear calm, sensible and mature. This way, your partner is likely to wonder if what he or she did was right. And probably, he or she will realize your true worth after all.

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Speed dating and blind dating are mostly shown to be chaotic in TV and movies. On rare occasion, they are employed as plots for sinister characters committing violence on unsuspecting women. The real truth is in no way that simple. Here are my best dating tactics for speed daters and blind daters.

Are You Ready For Speed Dating?

For good reasons, speed dating has become really convenient in the past several years. Busy people from all walks of life, those recently divorced, or just plain lonely singles tired of the club scene, find this type of dating is an important tool for covering a lot of potential partners in a very short space of time. There is also the advantage of having safe access to other people in the same situation thus making everyone equal. No one need feel awkward because all are in the same situation.

Opting for a speed date event is also exhilarating because the fear of rejection is mostly removed. You probably know what it feels like to approach someone in a club, at work, or some function only to find out they are already seeing someone or they just are not interested in you. Makes you feel rejected even though you did not know they were already in a relationship or they are simply not looking to date anyone at the moment. So, it’s important that you not take it personally.

Any feeling of rejection is not as traumatic at speed date events and is one of the top reasons why speed dating events are so successful. Everyone attending has the same motive – to meet and date a potential partner whether for fun or something more permanent. While there is a level of rejection, it is not as emotional as a one-on-one attempt to date a specific person. These dating events are really “artificial” dates designed to bring strangers together to see if there are common interests or chemistry that could result in one or more “real” dates. These dating events give you the chance to see if there is some spark before you go further. It avoids pursuing unrealistic expectations.

Speed dating also teaches us that there are many “fish in the sea” and not just one perfect catch for each of us. Mate matching companies make millions by selling the idea that they can help you connect with that one ideal person for you. The world is a big place after all. Likes and dislikes vary from person to person as do physical appearance but to say there is only one perfect match for each of us is ridiculous. This is simply not true at all.

This fact should give you hope. The more people you meet, the greater chance of finding several people with whom you can have a meaningful relationship, even marriage.

The number of people attending the speed dating event will determine how many people you are exposed to. You might only be able to sit with someone for as little as 3 minutes. If you have a small event you might get as much as 10 minutes with each person Some will click with you but you will not click with them, some will leave you cold while they will think you are an ideal match. There is no formula to follow and no guarantee of success going in. You may have to attend more than one speed date event before you find someone that is a match for a real date.

If you walk away without a good prospect, don’t get down on yourself and don’t feel rejected. Remember that many others have the same experience. It’s a numbers game really. Keep at it until you succeed. It beats being rejected by someone in your current sphere of life whom you might see every day.

Blind Dating Can Be Good, Too!

Getting fixed up with a blind date has been around since we carried clubs and ate our meat raw. Well, maybe not that long, but at least since we became civilized. And, of course, most of us can remember a disaster when we were paired with someone that our well-meaning friend or relative thought was perfect for us. As if they know what we want. Well, most of the time they simply do not know what we are looking for in a mate. That goes for the blind date they fix us up with, as well. It often is a bad experience for both parties.

So, how do you make this kind of date into a memorable experience?

The first thing is to go into the date with no unrealistic expectations of hooking up with your soul mate. A blind date should only be based on the idea of two strangers taking time to know one another. It’s not like speed dating because you have a whole lot more time to do it.

Throw any idea of romance or second base scoring out of your mind. In fact, lighten the experience right away by talking with your date about the whole experience of being paired by other people who do not have a clue about each of you. Make fun with it. Remove the jitters by establishing the fact that you just want to get to know your date and have a good time.

Keep all conversation general in nature. If your date starts to talk about personal issues, just listen without judgment or advice unless asked. Don’t get into their past relationships or discuss yours, either, even if they bring it up. Try to steer the conversation in another direction.

You were paired because you seemed to have a lot in common or that your personalities are a match. This may or may not be true at all so be aware of this as you move through the date. Above all, avoid trying to be someone you are not, someone you will always have to be from that point forward if you intend to continue dating this person. It’s a trap that is easy to fall into especially if you are lonely. Stand or fall on who you really are. You’ll be glad you did in the long run.

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Maybe you are working very hard for the chance to get back together with your ex? Maybe the break up just happen recently? And now, you can help but call them immediately? But somehow, you feel that this may not be the best thing to do at this moment. So you want to find out whether you should proceed.

Do you know what your next step should be?

Well, it really depends on your situation. For most situations, it will be best not to contact your ex for the time being. For how long? Well, one month is usually a good period of time. Of course, there are always exception.

For example, if both of you break up because of a very small issue, I do not see any reason why you should need to wait for a whole 30 days before getting in touch with your ex again. You should probably try to contact your ex much sooner, let say 7 days.

However, if the break up is due to a more serious issue such as cheating, then you will probably need more than one month. There is a very good reason why you should not contact your ex immediately.

A lot of times, people are very confused when they just experience a break up. A confused person have the tendency to make all kind of mistakes. So by not contact your ex, you are protecting yourself from committing all kinds of mistakes and thus prevent yourself from pushing your ex away.

For now, this is the best time to think about what you really want. First, make sure you are not saving a worthless relationship that should not be saved in the first place. But then, if you do think this relationship should be saved, then you are encouraged to work hard to save your own relationship.

Last but not least, try to avoid doing all kinds of desperate things such as calling your ex boyfriend or girlfriend one hundred times in a single day.

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