Kamloops Singles and Dating

Speed dating and blind dating are mostly shown to be chaotic in TV and movies. On rare occasion, they are employed as plots for sinister characters committing violence on unsuspecting women. The real truth is in no way that simple. Here are my best dating tactics for speed daters and blind daters.

Are You Ready For Speed Dating?

For good reasons, speed dating has become really convenient in the past several years. Busy people from all walks of life, those recently divorced, or just plain lonely singles tired of the club scene, find this type of dating is an important tool for covering a lot of potential partners in a very short space of time. There is also the advantage of having safe access to other people in the same situation thus making everyone equal. No one need feel awkward because all are in the same situation.

Opting for a speed date event is also exhilarating because the fear of rejection is mostly removed. You probably know what it feels like to approach someone in a club, at work, or some function only to find out they are already seeing someone or they just are not interested in you. Makes you feel rejected even though you did not know they were already in a relationship or they are simply not looking to date anyone at the moment. So, it’s important that you not take it personally.

Any feeling of rejection is not as traumatic at speed date events and is one of the top reasons why speed dating events are so successful. Everyone attending has the same motive – to meet and date a potential partner whether for fun or something more permanent. While there is a level of rejection, it is not as emotional as a one-on-one attempt to date a specific person. These dating events are really “artificial” dates designed to bring strangers together to see if there are common interests or chemistry that could result in one or more “real” dates. These dating events give you the chance to see if there is some spark before you go further. It avoids pursuing unrealistic expectations.

Speed dating also teaches us that there are many “fish in the sea” and not just one perfect catch for each of us. Mate matching companies make millions by selling the idea that they can help you connect with that one ideal person for you. The world is a big place after all. Likes and dislikes vary from person to person as do physical appearance but to say there is only one perfect match for each of us is ridiculous. This is simply not true at all.

This fact should give you hope. The more people you meet, the greater chance of finding several people with whom you can have a meaningful relationship, even marriage.

The number of people attending the speed dating event will determine how many people you are exposed to. You might only be able to sit with someone for as little as 3 minutes. If you have a small event you might get as much as 10 minutes with each person Some will click with you but you will not click with them, some will leave you cold while they will think you are an ideal match. There is no formula to follow and no guarantee of success going in. You may have to attend more than one speed date event before you find someone that is a match for a real date.

If you walk away without a good prospect, don’t get down on yourself and don’t feel rejected. Remember that many others have the same experience. It’s a numbers game really. Keep at it until you succeed. It beats being rejected by someone in your current sphere of life whom you might see every day.

Blind Dating Can Be Good, Too!

Getting fixed up with a blind date has been around since we carried clubs and ate our meat raw. Well, maybe not that long, but at least since we became civilized. And, of course, most of us can remember a disaster when we were paired with someone that our well-meaning friend or relative thought was perfect for us. As if they know what we want. Well, most of the time they simply do not know what we are looking for in a mate. That goes for the blind date they fix us up with, as well. It often is a bad experience for both parties.

So, how do you make this kind of date into a memorable experience?

The first thing is to go into the date with no unrealistic expectations of hooking up with your soul mate. A blind date should only be based on the idea of two strangers taking time to know one another. It’s not like speed dating because you have a whole lot more time to do it.

Throw any idea of romance or second base scoring out of your mind. In fact, lighten the experience right away by talking with your date about the whole experience of being paired by other people who do not have a clue about each of you. Make fun with it. Remove the jitters by establishing the fact that you just want to get to know your date and have a good time.

Keep all conversation general in nature. If your date starts to talk about personal issues, just listen without judgment or advice unless asked. Don’t get into their past relationships or discuss yours, either, even if they bring it up. Try to steer the conversation in another direction.

You were paired because you seemed to have a lot in common or that your personalities are a match. This may or may not be true at all so be aware of this as you move through the date. Above all, avoid trying to be someone you are not, someone you will always have to be from that point forward if you intend to continue dating this person. It’s a trap that is easy to fall into especially if you are lonely. Stand or fall on who you really are. You’ll be glad you did in the long run.

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